Moving On From The Singular Fortean Society | December 2024

On Tuesday morning, my husband Tobias asked me a question, and told me to be honest.

“Do you want to do The Singular Fortean Society anymore?”

I replied, “No.”

He said, “Me neither.”

We had a conversation about how we’ve moved past the project we started together nine years ago. We published this statement on The Singular Fortean Society’s social channels:

For Tobias, moving on meant focusing on projects he truly wants to do and opening up more opportunities in the paranormal field for himself. For me, it meant stepping away. It means I’m not the “Creative Director/Photo & Video Analyst” anymore. It means no more posting on social media for the society anymore.

Of course I will support Tobias in any way he needs, be it book cover designs, website help, or simply being there just as I have been the entire time we’ve been together. I’m also happy to attend some events to watch the vendor table, sell books, or hang out with weird friends.

In all honesty, I have been mentally distancing myself from the paranormal for quite some time, and it is hard to force a presence in a place where you don’t feel inspired. My role in The Society was always behind-the-scenes anyway, and that’s how I preferred things.

How I came to this place and this conclusion happened for multiple reasons, as I continue to reflect on this moment. I think our evolution is something that many (if not most) individuals go through. I merely became more focused on other things. Somewhere between 2016 and 2024, I found my calling in working with the Monarchs (something I did and loved in my youth) which in turn led to me to the work I do to encourage planting native and getting closer to nature.

I also decided that it was time to bring horses back into my life, and I only found that I wanted to grow as an equestrian from there. There’s no going back.

But something that I am nervous to talk about but wanted to share was how turned off I became by the paranormal community—especially online. I’ve never had the personality to compete and hustle, I don’t like it, so that is a part of it….but the toxicity and rat race within those spaces were not something I wanted any part of, and it did cause me to want to pretty much completely disengage from the subject matter entirely. These dynamics are not exclusive to the paranormal community, and I to this day feel that much of that negative energy is unnecessary. And who knows, perhaps this decision will eventually allow me to feel excited about the paranormal again, as a casual fan. I cannot say that my fascination with ghosts and cryptids is entirely gone.

I’m so glad we decided to do The Singular Fortean Society, though. It was a labor of love, and I will always be proud of what we built together. Who knows what the future holds, and in the end, I’m not really going anywhere. I’m just opening space up in my life and mind for other things.

I’m excited for Tobias that he gets to truly hone in on what he wants to do by removing the “society” aspect of his paranormal endeavors. He has more time to put energy into other projects he wouldn’t have had time for otherwise.

As for me, I’m not sure where this will lead me…but I am forever a creative and it is certain that I will find myself doing other projects. Time will tell.

Thank you for all the support you gave Tobias and I over the years. Be sure to continue to follow what he is doing on singularfortean.com and I’ll see all you weirdos around.